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They say it’s easy to forget your troubles when the weather’s warm.
But all it takes it’s one fall breeze to blow reality right back in your face.
Watched Glee and Gossip girl :) Two of my favourite tv shows. Mannnnn watching glee makes me happy, listening to the songs they sing puts a smile on my face :) Changed the songs on my blog to three of the glee songs from Season 4's first episode.
"Speak"verbsay something in order to convey information, an opinion, or a feeling
How often is the lack of communication the cause of friendship problems? How often is the lack of communication the source of a broken relationships? How often is the lack of communication the cause of so many problems in our lives? Why? Because people dont speak... they dont convey the feelings to others, so the people around them, despite the countless times of trying and prying, of "are you okay, you can always talk to me", never get anything out. What's the point of bottling unhappy feelings up? Speak people speak :P There's a reason behind every word in the dictionary, and the reason behind this word in my opinion is so that people dont have to carry the whole burden of both happy and unhappy feelings. You dont have to speak verbally to someone, you can write it in a diary, you can send an email? So many things you can do to help make things better in your life... and perhaps decrease the percentage of depressed beings in our world, and perhaps make the world a happier place :) I've learnt that the lack of communication is a HUGE problem, it can lead to so many misunderstandings, the shedding of tears, the hurt, the anger.... and all these consequences are the result of people's reluctance to speak. Ive never been one of a confrontational type, ive never been one that makes my feelings known through words. I've often just done it by body language because im not the best person when it comes to confrontations. However I've learnt that body language does.. "jack" (in mello's words). Words are the most powerful tools, they can change a bad situation around. Trust me, dealing with my own emotions is one of my biggest weakness because I used to be terrible, I kept every unhappy thought to myself.... until the bestfriend I met here changed it around. I remember our first fight which lasted for like nearly a term, and the... the "confrontation" (the inverted commas because it was over the phone), where she called saying she needed to talk, but I was so afraid then, so all i said was "umm ok" then came the other half of the word speak...
How often is the lack of communication the cause of friendship problems? How often is the lack of communication the source of a broken relationships? How often is the lack of communication the cause of so many problems in our lives? Why? Because people dont speak... they dont convey the feelings to others, so the people around them, despite the countless times of trying and prying, of "are you okay, you can always talk to me", never get anything out. What's the point of bottling unhappy feelings up? Speak people speak :P There's a reason behind every word in the dictionary, and the reason behind this word in my opinion is so that people dont have to carry the whole burden of both happy and unhappy feelings. You dont have to speak verbally to someone, you can write it in a diary, you can send an email? So many things you can do to help make things better in your life... and perhaps decrease the percentage of depressed beings in our world, and perhaps make the world a happier place :) I've learnt that the lack of communication is a HUGE problem, it can lead to so many misunderstandings, the shedding of tears, the hurt, the anger.... and all these consequences are the result of people's reluctance to speak. Ive never been one of a confrontational type, ive never been one that makes my feelings known through words. I've often just done it by body language because im not the best person when it comes to confrontations. However I've learnt that body language does.. "jack" (in mello's words). Words are the most powerful tools, they can change a bad situation around. Trust me, dealing with my own emotions is one of my biggest weakness because I used to be terrible, I kept every unhappy thought to myself.... until the bestfriend I met here changed it around. I remember our first fight which lasted for like nearly a term, and the... the "confrontation" (the inverted commas because it was over the phone), where she called saying she needed to talk, but I was so afraid then, so all i said was "umm ok" then came the other half of the word speak...
"Listen"
verb [ intrans. ]give one's attention to a sound
Another very important word... what are Asians without having black hair? what's thirsty without water, what's friends without trust? what's fork without spoon? Often things come in pairs... hence speak with listen. So back to my story, welllll i remember the picture of me holding the phone sitting on the floor against my bed frame. Then she started explaining and all i did was cry....... cry.... tears and more tears. But surprisingly, this made things so much better at school and actually did strengthen our friendship so much. So since then.. i've tried making a huge effort (at least between mello and i) to tell her if im unhappy with somethings she's done... I mean yes we go through a short period of a "cold war" and then we sort things out :) She spoke, I listened, I spoke she listened. For things friendships to work out, someone needs to speak out. Someone needs to convey the unhappiness... else nothings going to fixed, nothing's going to be changed. Its somewhat impossible to change someone's character as one of my friends have told me, ie: if they dont like carrying around a mobile phone then thats them.... and other friends might feel neglected, but a good friend will speak out and then somewhat try make things better, or give in, or apologise for something just to make a situation better :)
Just some random thoughts.... ive referred to so many different people in that post, can you guys figure out who you are? :P teehee.
So speak, and someone will listen, someone who can make life so much brighter :) That's why we have a mouth and two ears!! :) Writing this has enlightened me on so many of the situations that has occured in my life, some i really regret, but i guess its somewhat too late to fix the past, but its not too late to prepare for the future! Life is hard and sometimes hurts... but hey!everyone wants happiness, no one wants pain, but you cant make a rainbow without some rain! :)
Hope this enlightened all of you too, tooodles! :)
Another very important word... what are Asians without having black hair? what's thirsty without water, what's friends without trust? what's fork without spoon? Often things come in pairs... hence speak with listen. So back to my story, welllll i remember the picture of me holding the phone sitting on the floor against my bed frame. Then she started explaining and all i did was cry....... cry.... tears and more tears. But surprisingly, this made things so much better at school and actually did strengthen our friendship so much. So since then.. i've tried making a huge effort (at least between mello and i) to tell her if im unhappy with somethings she's done... I mean yes we go through a short period of a "cold war" and then we sort things out :) She spoke, I listened, I spoke she listened. For things friendships to work out, someone needs to speak out. Someone needs to convey the unhappiness... else nothings going to fixed, nothing's going to be changed. Its somewhat impossible to change someone's character as one of my friends have told me, ie: if they dont like carrying around a mobile phone then thats them.... and other friends might feel neglected, but a good friend will speak out and then somewhat try make things better, or give in, or apologise for something just to make a situation better :)
Just some random thoughts.... ive referred to so many different people in that post, can you guys figure out who you are? :P teehee.
So speak, and someone will listen, someone who can make life so much brighter :) That's why we have a mouth and two ears!! :) Writing this has enlightened me on so many of the situations that has occured in my life, some i really regret, but i guess its somewhat too late to fix the past, but its not too late to prepare for the future! Life is hard and sometimes hurts... but hey!everyone wants happiness, no one wants pain, but you cant make a rainbow without some rain! :)
Hope this enlightened all of you too, tooodles! :)
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